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{June 1, 2018}   Can you count on yourself?

I don’t feel that accomplished lately. I’ll have a few days of doing great with my fitness and food and then I just fall off. Or worse I see results and I “reward” myself by sabatoging myself. Its a frustrating cycle to say the least but its more than that. I’ve realized I can’t trust myself. I set goals and instantly there is doubt in my head that I can achieve it because time and time again I have moved the finish line, compromised the goal, or just flat out lied to myself. At the time I said it was so that I wouldn’t be too strinhent, that I wouldn’t be too hard on myself but along the way I’ve gotten way too soft. I don’t hold myself accountable and I don’t even know if I know how. Having support is great but you have to be the first block of your supoort system, the most dependable block. Can you count on yourself to help you lose weight?

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Since having a baby I have been well acquainted with the “mommy wars.” Especially, as a professional, there is a lot of pressure to work full-time so as to not “waste” my education. I chose to stay home for the first year of my baby’s life. I was fortunate to have this option and I feel blessed. I know a some women from college, graduate, and professional school who have chosen to stay home. I will be honest, all of them are white. In my baby classes all of the professionally educated women who stay home are white. I am the only black woman I know with my education level who stays home, except for one friend. Its extremely uncommon. Why?

As many of my friends have told me they can’t afford to stay home. Most are married but not always to equally educated men, so there is income but not necessarily enough to maintain their lifestyle (compared to other Socio-Economic combination couples). My friend and I have chosen to take a dip in socio-economic status to stay home. We are certainly not impoverished but we do consider saving our families money part of our contribution to the household income. Both of us could definitely increase our income by working full-time, but would it upgrade our lifestyle? Afterall there is a cost to working…

As my friend and I continued discussing this topic one day, being the nerds we are, we did the math.

In our area there is significant cost added to our monthly expenses as working mom, even as professionals.

Childcare – $1800/mo (one child)

Child care is a major issue in our area and with my profession I would need comprehensive child care to cover unexpected late hours.

Extra gas/oil/car – $740/ mo

This is the monthly cost for a decent used 2nd car with no issues (how likely is that) and the cost of high gas prices and at least 2 hours in traffic a day.

Prepared meals/ restaurants – $ 600

Lets be honest working moms are more likely to pick up food on the go because who wants to cook after 12-14 hours in the work world. Plus right now I cook 1-2 meals 5-6 times a week for my family. That won’t be happening if I work full time.

Groceries -$600

There’s less bulk and unprocessed buying because cooking needs to be quick. Cooking from scratch typically is cheaper but time consuming.

Other costs – $750

These costs are for buying and the upkeep of professional clothes, networking events, incidental coffee dates and meals, professional activities, professional insurance, etc.

Debt repayment

Not to mention as my friend pointed out, we don’t benefit from generational wealth like many of our law school peers so we have student debt, the bill of which is decided by income. Hence an increase in income is an increase in the monthly bill.

We found a nifty calculator online that helps determine if a household has enough income to support a stay at home parent. We used it in reverse. What are the costs we’d incur by going back to work?

The conclusion of our little experiment was interesting. For us, if we were to go back to work and land the average salary in our fields we would essentially spend our incomes paying for the additional costs associated with being working moms. In fact, after the additional expenses we would make anywhere from

(-$1500) to $500 a month!

Many people we know claim they can’t afford not to work. However does anyone ever discuss women who might be staying home because they can’t afford to work? The cost of being a working mom is just too high.

Side note: As an aside being military spouses also adds to that struggle because we aren’t always able to have a straight trajectory in our careers and thus our income outlook isn’t the same as someone with the same education level and time in the corporate world. However, our costs can be greater because we can’t always rely on spousal presence to ease the cost of childcare or incidentals associated with working full-time.

*Keep in mind these are our average numbers based on a very high cost area, heavy traffic, and a profession with high expectations. Your numbers might be different, I encourage you to check out the calculator!



{May 14, 2018}   Resources for Change

I’ve been doing a lot of reading and research lately and just a general gathering of information about different lifestyles and fitness. Since the baby I’ve worked out relatively regularly, meaning at least once a week but usually more often 2-3 times a week. I find it helps me feel more prepared for the everyday grooling task of parenting (One thing no one tells you about being a nursing, active, parent is very physically demanding).

Because I ultimately want overall health I am working on nutrition, balance, and goal setting.

Some of the resources I’m utilizing right now are:

Dr. Joel Fuhrman’s Eat to Live

Bikini Body Mommy on YouTube

21 Day Transformation on Amazon

Yoga with Adrienne on YouTube

I cycle through the workouts as well as one run day a week on a perfect workout week.

What are some great resources for a nutrition rich diet and nursing mom friendly (i.e. won’t mess with my supply) lifestyle?



Sometimes it’s not easy being a wife. Even with an extraordinarily involved husband I still feel like I’m constantly juggling. I know many wives feel this way. I’m the manager and head operator of our home and it’s hard on any given day to get anything completed. I say the word “completed” purposefully because I do a lot and thus I get a lot done each day but I feel like sometimes I am the master of incomplete projects. And it’s not because I lack attention or a failing on my part. It’s because so many things need to be done Right Now! Chiefly being keeping my exclusively breast fed baby content and happy every two hours. I no sooner finish her natural eat play sleep cycle when it starts again. It’s exhausting to say the least.

Right now I juggle part-time legal work at a clinic, a family start up business, an existing business, household chores, cooking, the baby, fitness, my own personal growth endeavors, and trying to get alone time with my husband. It’s a lot.

So what’s a girl to do to keep focused throughout the day? I don’t really believe in multitasking because after all multitasking is just jumping between multiple actions. I need to come up with a system.

Currently I write a list the night before so I can go to sleep without the next days’ consuming my thoughts. But I think I need to be even more focused. I’m considering assigning each week to a specific area of business and finance in our lives to stay on track of the many things that need to be done.

For instance:

– managing properties and tasks related

– organizing inventory for the start up

– legal work for the clinic

– managing family finances and investments

I tried specific days of the week for specific areas of my life but things run over into the next day.

Any suggestions would be great..



When I was seriously ready to start my weight loss journey after the baby. I knew I couldn’t do it alone. I also knew with the holidays coming up I was setting myself up for failure if I tried to diet during the food fest that is Thanksgiving, Christmas, and in my family makeup a few other holidays and birthdays as well. So I joined Weight Watchers.

What?! I know Weight Watchers during the holidays? I didn’t join so much to lose weight as I did to avoid gaining weight. I needed accountability and a plan to keep me at least on a healthy-ish trajectory. Considering that I love a discount and a savings, you have to know I was serious because Weight Watchers doesn’t offer a discount during the holidays, at least they didn’t for me.

I joined from October until January, to gather tools, get my mind right and just not gain the inevitable 5 to 10 lbs I gain every year. I’m happy to report it actually worked. I even lost a couple pounds. So why didn’t I stay?

Well, for one it’s expensive. The constant marketing was another, I wanted to train myself to eat healthy, not figure out how to cheat the point system with manufactured food. But most of all, I needed active support. I went to the meetings and really you hear a lecture and receive a little bit of nutrition education and then you talk about ways to skirt the system and then you leave. I saw people in my group who had been in there for years and really hadn’t lost much weight according to their own reports. They stayed for the camaraderie. That was great for them, but I needed a little push and I needed people who were active. I found that, of all places, at my local YMCA, for free (It’s included with a YMCA membership)! They have a program Lose to Win and you meet with a small group weekly to discuss progress and nutrition. The kicker is, you are already at the gym so you might as well get an hour workout in. So far, I’ve lost 15lbs in 10 weeks of active weight loss effort (Just writing that makes me realize the accomplishment. It doesn’t feel like much in day-to-day life). It’s not all this program, but I think that this program has helped. I believe a large portion of that is being in the gym, having familiarity with the leader, and the people. Participants are usually people in your own neighborhood, so there is familiarity. Also, you develop workout groups and that alone is an encouragement. It’s a more multi-pronged approach, which was necessary for me.

I’m not knocking Weight Watchers, because I actually really love their program and I am quasi- mimicking it even now. But I am encouraging others to seek the support they need, don’t just try to fit into a program that isn’t giving you what you need to be successful. What does your support look like? Let me know. Give me some ideas!

I have some more support elements in play right now and I will discuss them in future posts.



{February 19, 2018}   “One Day” wardrobe

We all have them, the “one day” clothes. You know, the clothes that remind you of yesteryear or yester-size. The clothes you bought as goal outfits that taunt you as you get further and further away from attaining the goal. The clothes that stopped fitting well awhile back but you squeeze into and show of all your unflattering angles. Yep that wardrobe.

As part of my weight loss journey I decided to stop holding on to these things. You see I have items in every size. So that as I’m shrinking I don’t have to buy new clothes. The problem is, I believe clutter not only takes up space in your home and mind it shows up on your body. As I’m releasing the weight I want to also release the junk I’m holding onto. To be honest many of my “favorite yester-size” outfits aren’t kept because of some fabulous memory. They’re kept almost as a mental lashing, a punishment for letting myself “go.” They serve as a reminder of my failing. Every time I see them it’s as if I’m scolding myself, “look how cute you used to be, look what size you use to wear.” They serve as validation that I once was worthy.

Except my journey is also one of combatting the negative thoughts and emotions that lead to eating my feelings. So why would I keep this junk around?



We went walking on some trails near our home, as we do often. Only this time baby girl wakes up halfway through (which is unusual) and decides nothing will comfort her but nursing. Only problem? We’re on a dirt path with trees on both side and an incline on both sides. There’s no where to sit as far as the eye can see and the sun is starting to go down. So what did I do? I mommed it and nursed while finishing the evening trek. LOL! And I didn’t even have the baby carrier!

Now I’m sure there are veteran moms out there who would say this is no big deal, but right now I feel like I should get a wilderness badge and be a leader in the zombie apocalypse because I have now mastered not just nursing and walking, but nursing and hiking. 😂

Sorry I didn’t get a picture. I was too busy nursing. 🤦🏾‍♀️



Man, it feels like forever since I did a Sadity Cents post. You know a post about being fabulous and frugal. Anyways, my family has gone “plant-based.” I hesitate to say vegan because there is so much that comes along with that monicker, but food wise I avoid meat, dairy, and processed sugar. We’ve been at it for more than a month and I’m loving it. Part of the reason I think we’ve been successful is that I went in with a plan. This isn’t the first time I’ve done this. In fact I do it almost every year as a fast and cleanse except; this time I’m continuing beyond my typical 21-day fast (I usually do the Daniel Fast with my family).

This time I ordered the Thrive Market vegan starter kit to help spark ideas and creativity. In past years boredom has been the major roadblock that has prevented me from extending my fast into a lifestyle.

The Thrive Market kit was such a pleasant surprise! I’ve tried other kits or vegan packages and they just have snacks. But this one had actual staples that were useful and versatile. Below I will list the products that were included in the kit and the recipes in which I used the items.

Also here is a 25% discount code for anyone who wants to give it (or any other Thrive product) a try.

Discount code: http://thrv.me/A12xyy

The vegan kit typically costs $47.95 for about $70 worth of product. With our first order discount code we paid $33. Not bad, it allowed me to try new products without a major investment.

Thrive Market Vegan Starter Kit

Sea Tangle Noodle Company Kelp Noodles — The only ingredients in these easy-to-eat raw noodles are kelp (a sea vegetable), sodium alginate (sodium salt extracted from a brown seaweed), and water. Kelp Noodles are fat-free, gluten-free, and very low in carbohydrates and calories—and no cooking is required to make them! Just rinse and add the noodles to any dish. Their traditional shape and neutral taste allow for a variety of uses in salads, stir-fries, hot broths, and casseroles.

Thrive Market Organic Virgin Coconut Oil

Ethically sourced from a small farm in the Philippines, Thrive Market’s organic virgin coconut oil is made from only the highest-quality ingredients. Organic, cold-pressed, and never refined, our coconut oil is just the way nature intended it to be—and at a fraction of the usual price tag. With a medium smoke-point of around 350 degrees, coconut oil is wonderful for baking, frying, and sautéing. Plus, it’s high in lauric acid, which helps to raise HDL (good) cholesterol levels.

Native Forest Vegan Coconut Milk Powder

Native Forest spray-dries fresh coconut milk for the perfect dairy-free alternative. This milk powder is great for traveling, camping, or an on-the-go lifestyle since it doesn’t require refrigeration and dissolves quickly when stirred in hot water. It tastes heavenly when used as a coffee creamer or mixed into soups, curries, sauces, desserts, and beverages.

Nuco Coconut Vegan Mayo

Whether you’re vegan, avoiding eggs, or just trying to get more coconut products in your life, this real-food vegan mayo—made from pure, non-GMO avocado and coconut oils—is sure to be a new staple in your kitchen. Cider vinegar and organic rosemary extract add that tangy, savory flavor that makes mayo so irresistible.

Thrive Market Pinto Beans, 2-pack

Thrive Market’s prepared pinto beans are grown, processed, and packed right here in the USA. They’re a great source of plant-based protein and are completely organic, non-GMO, gluten-free, and contain no preservatives or artificial ingredients—just wholesome pinto bean goodness. Try them in a number of recipes for added nutrition and rich flavor.

Pacific Foods Organic Seitan

Some vegans have a love-hate relationship with tofu, but there are other meat substitutes like seitan that can fit the bill. Made from a blend of wheat protein, red beans, and sprouted lentils, Pacific Foods’ version goes great in spicy dishes like tacos, fajitas, and stir-fry. Plus, it boasts 15 grams of plant-based protein per serving.

Thrive Market Plantain Chips, 2-Pack

When you open a bag of Thrive Market Non-GMO Plantain Chips, you’re getting nothing but a wholesome snack that pairs perfectly with dips. Try them in place of potato chips, too! These crisps are made with just three simple ingredients—plantains, non-hydrogenated vegetable oil, and sea salt—making them vegan-friendly and gluten-free.

Thrive Market Sprouted Brown Rice

Our sprouted brown rices’ rich, nutty flavor puts bland white rice to shame. Try it as a side on its own, or as a base for soups, salads, and stir-fries. It’s official: Thrive Market is taking over your pantry in the best possible way. We now offer a variety of wholesome baking ingredients and nutritious grains. It’s the perfect collection for all dietary needs and healthy cravings

Upton’s Naturals Chili Lime Jackfruit Carnitas

Jackfruit is a giant, fleshy fruit native to South and Southeast Asia. When cooked, it has a consistency similar to that of pulled pork, making it a great option for vegan-friendly tacos and burritos. Not only is this jackfruit carnitas flavorful and filling, it’s also a timesaver in the kitchen. Just fry with a small amount of oil and cook for 1-2 minutes, or until heated, stirring occasionally.

Louisville Vegan Jerky Co. Pete’s Bourbon Smoked Black Pepper Jerky

“Jerky” and “vegan” are two words that rarely go together—until now. Pete’s bourbon-smoked black pepper flavor tastes like the real deal, but is made from meatless soy protein that’s marinated in gluten-free tamari, sweetened with locally-sourced sorghum grains, and smoked in real Kentucky bourbon barrels. The result is a salty, robust, and chewy snack that boasts seven grams of protein per serving.

Follow Your Heart VeganEgg 100% Plant Based Egg Replacer

What’s breakfast without eggs and toast? Now vegans can get in on the American staple with Follow Your Heart’s 100% plant-based egg alternatives that offer the same texture and taste as the real deal. Simply whisk or blend with ice-cold water, and use in any and all eggs recipes, including scrambles, omelets, quiches, cookies, cakes, and more! This 4 oz. carton makes a dozen cholesterol- and dairy-free “eggs” that the whole family will enjoy.

Sophie’s Kitchen Black Pepper Vegan Toona

Savor the fresh taste of the sea without harming any fish in the process. Plant-based Toona by Sophie’s Kitchen is a delectable fish-free alternative to conventional canned options, made with non-GMO, all-natural ingredients like Konjac root (an ancient Asian superfood), pea protein, agave, and spices. Along with black pepper seasoning, this veganized tuna has a flavor and texture that works wonders in salads, casseroles, sandwiches, and more. Plus, it’s an excellent source of protein and fiber.

Source: https://thrivemarket.com/p/vegan-starter-kit

The recipes I made are:

  1. Jap-Chae: Made with the Kelp Noodles and Seitan
  2. Cubano Sandwich with Pinto Beans: Made with the Chili-Lime Jackfruit Carnitas, Coconut Oil Mayo, and Thrive Pinto Beans
  3. Polenta, Eggs, Chorizo and Stewed Tomatoes: Made with Follow Your Heart Vegan Eggs
  4. Vegan Meat-Lover Pizza: Made with Chili-Lime Jackfruit Carnitas
  5. Vegan Nachos: Made with Seitan
  6. Coconut Hot Chocolate: Made with Powdered Coconut Milk
  7. Tuna and Hummus Plate: Made with Vegan Toona and Thrive Plantain Chips
  8. French Toast: Made with Follow Your Heart Vegan Eggs and Powdered Coconut Milk
  9. Thai Coconut Curry Soup: Made with Coconut oil and Kelp Noodles
  10. Butter Chicken Chickpeas: Made with Coconut Oil and Sprouted Brown Rice


If you are like me when I became pregnant I made an extensive registry list of all the cute and posh items that I just knew I needed for my new baby… I didn’t use half of them, but one thing I did was ask veteran moms to buy me some of their go to items. This was an awesome idea because I received so many tried and true products rather than the latest fad. Here are some of my absolute favorite gifts that I received based purely on utility. I had other items that I thought were extremely fashionable but these are the items that have helped (and are still helping me) through the nitty gritty of first-time parenting.

Note: You’ll notice some items, I name specific brands while others I focus more on the product type. Certain items I love that brand specifically, other items (like the leg warmers) I just like the product concept and I am not partial to a particular brand.

Also, here is a video with more detailed descriptions of each of the items listed below.

 

  1. WabbaNub  WubbaNub Green Frog Pacifier
  2. Bandana BibsSilly Billyz Toweling Bandana Bibs - Pink 3-Pack (Fuchsia, Pale Pink, Purple)
  3. Victoria Beckham Bibs (They no longer sell them at Target)  Image result for victoria beckham baby bibs target
  4. Silicone Bibs  CB EAT by Chewbeads Baby Silicone Bib (2 Pack), 100% Safe Silicone-Foodie Yellow
  5. Smock Bib  Bumkins Waterproof Sleeved Bib, Bloom (6-24 Months)
  6. Carter’s Zip Up Sleeper  Carter's Baby Girls' Cotton Sleep and Play
  7. Halo Sleepsack 
  8. Car Seat Canopy Image result for car seat canopy
  9. Moby Wrap Moby Wrap Baby Carrier for Newborns + Toddlers Soft Baby Sling Baby Wrap, Ideal for Baby Wearing, Breastfeeding, and Keeping Baby Close - Slate
  10. Baby K’Tan Breeze Baby K’tan BREEZE Cotton Mesh Wrap style Baby Carrier, Charcoal, Small
  11. Lillebaby Complete Carrier  SIX-Position, 360° Ergonomic Baby & Child Carrier by LILLEbaby – The COMPLETE Original (Black)
  12. Baby Warmers  juDanzy 3 Pair Baby Boy And Girl Leg Warmers Black, white Neutral Colors
  13. Safety 1st Stock Up for Baby Kit 
  14. BONUS: Pacifier Clips Baby Pacifier Clip by Upsimples - 6 Pack - Pacifier Holder for Baby Girls, Premium Quality Soothies Teething Ring Holder with Modern Design |Universal Fit


{January 22, 2018}   Admit it you’re FAT

I’m pretty sure I’ve railed about the fallacy of the BMI scale before. the cliff notes are that the BMI led me to believe I was overweight long before I really was. So I’ve always taken it with a grain of salt. I mean at 125lbs and a size 6 the BMI said I was overweight and really and truly I was just curvy.

Me at the “overweight/ obese” line on the BMI scale.

But there comes a point when you do have to admit, it’s not just ” curves” anymore. I think I’ve hit that moment. Though I don’t put all my faith in the BMI scale and I recognize that it’s a commercial construct, there is some validity behind having a line in the sand between acceptable weight and unacceptable. Mine came when my baby turned 5 months. I weighed myself and I was not losing those last 5lbs, to say nothing of the 50 pounds that had nothing to do with her. Out of curiosity I calculated my BMI. I was used to the index saying I was overweight and a few years ago I’d crossed to obese. But again, I was biased against its findings since my obsession with it my number in that particular scale (and that of uneducated medical professionals) had sent me into a spiral of self loathing and doubt and really body dysmorphia. But there is nothing that can prepare you to see “morbidly obese.” I mean that’s a name for other people, people who don’t look like me. People who can’t walk far in the store or ride roller coasters or who have to buy an extra seat (I’m not saying my thoughts were PC or kind, but we all try to define something undesirable as the “others”). Morbidly obese was not me, a woman who kept herself up and wore makeup everyday and still got turn backs from passing guys. Yet, there it was. On the BMI scale morbidly obese is considered anyone with a BMI of 40 or higher and I was a 40.9.

I was so ashamed, saddened, hurt. How? When? Why? Me?

Yes, you!

Somehow over the years I’d decided that since the BMI was so fallible that I could dismiss all the information and insight it has to offer. As long as I felt like I looked good “for my weight,” I’d decided it was the same as being at a good and healthy weight. And somehow being cut and “thick” was the same as actually thriving… I was wrong. And that misguided logic had allowed me to watch the scale creep up to my never ever number. You know that one number on the scale, where you swear you’ll never reach? I’d hit it, I’d passed it. It actually became my first weight loss goal; to get back to my never ever weight.

Sometimes even a fallible scale can help you correct failing logic and just admit that you are officially FAT — Failing At Thriving.



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