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One thing I am amazed by is how many decisions must be made in preparation for a new life. This list actually comes from my own preparation. I made a running tally (or tried to) of all the decisions, major and mundane that had to be made. These are just the ones I took time to research and really way my options.  Even with all of this I still felt under prepared. The bottom line is you will never be completely ready for a baby.  But if you are a list lover like me this may help you get started when you don’t know where to start. This list is in no particular order, just how they came up in my pregnancy. 

  1. Cloth or disposable diapers
  2. Breast feed or formula
  3. Gender reveal or surprise
  4. Midwife or Doctor
  5. Ultrasounds or No Ultrasounds
  6. Prenatal Vitamins – Deciding on whether to take them at all and whether natural nutrition is a better fit. Also deciding on the brand of vitamins.
  7. Delivery in a hospital, birth center, or home
  8. Decide on what to drink: Alcohol once a week or none at all. Quit caffeine cold turkey or just limit consumption.
  9. Exercise routine – if you are able to exercise. Otherwise setting a date to start again in the second trimester.
  10. Diet changes, if any at all.
  11. All natural remedies for nausea or medication.
  12. When and how you will announce the pregnancy
  13. Baby name – you think it’s easy but it isn’t. We had a boy and girl name picked out and still changed it once the baby was born. 
  14. Continue working or become a stay at home parent
  15. Journal or not to journal – most mom’s want some way to commemorate this life changing event. The decision comes in when you have to decide how you are going to track your changes; pictures, memory book, social media, etc.
  16. Crib, cradle, Co-sleep. Sleeping arrangements: Co-sleeping, allowing the baby to sleep in-room, or starting the baby out in a nursery from the very beginning.
  17. Whether or not to have testing done. There are so many tests now, glucose tests, screening tests, screening tests or amniocentesis to test for Down syndrome as well as other chromosomal abnormalities, genetic disorders, and neural tube defects. Believe it or not, all of these are optional and there are pros and cons to each.
  18. Doula or no doula.
  19. Baby moon, Staycation, or nothing at all.
  20. Baby shower or Diaper pounding
  21. Method for preventing stretch marks
  22. Childbirth class or not
  23. Permissible interventions. Making a baby plan is so essential. Not so much because care providers will read it, but so you can think through all of your options before the big day. That way you and your partner can advocate for your informed choices.
  24. How you will budget for a baby.
  25. How you will prepare your pets.
  26. How you will prepare your older children.
  27. Dental care. Will you continue using floride tooth paste, will you see the dentist, how will you avoid the increase of tooth decay that occurs with pregnancy?
  28. Postpartum recovery plan
  29. Baby registry items
  30. Maternity leave, paternity leave, extended break
  31. Childproof your home or making home improvements
  32. Breastfeeding or formula
  33. Fetal kicks counting  or no. I chose not to until the very end. It just added stress to an already apprehensive mama. As long as baby moved at regular intervals I called it good. 
  34. Additional classes: CPR, breastfeeding, hypnosis, etc. 
  35. Therapy or no: Sometimes you have unresolved issues you want to handle before becoming a parent.
  36. Pediatrician – Who, what, and where. Who are you looking for, what’s their practice philosophy. Where are you willing to travel. 
  37. Vaccinations, partial vaccinations, delayed vaccinations or no vaccinations
  38. Circumcision or no circumcision
  39. Nursery decor
  40. Preparations for the babies future; i.e. Life insurance or no, will or trust, college fund now or later. 

 

Resources:

http://www.babycenter.com/0_the-ultimate-pregnancy-to-do-list-third-trimester_10341209.bc

 

 

 



I have gone through most of this pregnancy as natural as possible and I figured the 4th Trimester was no exception. I had a lot of recommendations for different store brand aids to help with recovery, but I decided to go the natural and home made route. Not to mention that since I had a natural home birth, most of the items were not provided for me like they would have been in a hospital.

After birth the main focus for recover is to heal you nether regions, which have just been through a life changing experience so most of these items focus on that.

  • Peri Bottle – My midwife did provide this for me and told me to fill it with witch hazel and water to help soothe me as I used the restroom. I suggest you have one in every bathroom for easy access.
  • Earth Mama Angel Baby Mama Bottom Balm — I like the company in general and had heard amazing things about this particular product as a substitute to Dermoplast. It soothes after birth.
  • Witch Hazel and soft paper towels – Some people use Tucks Pads, but this is essentially the same thing. Have a large stock prepared either way you go. Layer them on you pads.
  • Pads – I bought Depends underwear at the recommendation of veteran moms. I later downgraded to very thick pads, and then later thinner pads.
  • Ibuprofen – It helps with pain and swelling without interfering with nursing.
  • Padsicles – I made mine out of aloe Vera, lavender essential oil, and witch hazel. I then froze a few and had them ready immediately for after birth. Here is a good post with instructions on how to make padsicles.

 

 

 



It’s getting close to the end, so that means its time to finally complete the home birth kit. Meaning, everything I will need to give birth to our little one needs to be in a central location for my birth team. There’s actually quite a bit that needs to be gathered. We’ve also prepped our birth space. For us that mean beautiful blue Christmas lights strung up so that when the lights are off, just a soft glow will exist. We also added candles and an aromatherapy machine. I made birth affirmations using my husbands art and photography. He is my calming force and I love his photography, so it seems appropriate. I actually have two birth spaces. One in our dining room to accommodate the birth pool. Another in my bedroom. The dining room is centrally located, it allows space for me to walk, pace, or engage in a range of movements. While the bedroom is intimate and my safe space. Depending on how labor is going and how I am feeling I have prepared both locations to accommodate my labor. As a first time mom, I’m not sure which I’ll prefer, so I’d rather be safe than sorry.

As far as my supply kit, my midwife has already dropped off the pool I will use and we bought an adapter for the sink. I bought a tub to hold all of the items I would need for the birth. Here is the list of items:

  • Birthing Clothes — I have two lose fitting gowns that I bought on sale and are comfortable to walk in.
    • Warm Socks — I personally hate wearing socks so I did not include this, but it was on the list.
  • Music – I have a Hypnobirth affirmation CD a friend provided me with as well as a nature CD. I also made a YouTube play list of songs I find inspirational. Mine list is filled with Christian, Gospel, and Neo Soul songs. I made sure most do not have much of a beat. I can imagine that that would be distracting during intense contractions.
  • Focal Point — For me this is the affirmation art I created using my husbands photography. Each on also has Bible verses to help underscore whatever affirmation I was highlighting. I will create a post about creating the ambiance for the birth which will include creating affirmation posters.
  • Hair Bands
  • Snack Foods (high in protein)
  • Juice and Electrolyte drinks – I have coconut water and popsicles
  • Coffee and Snacks for the Birth Team
  • Water Bottle
  • Lip Balm
  • Hot/ Cold Packs – I made rice packs with mismatched socks, essential oils, and a cheap bag of rice.
  • Aromatherapy spray and oils
  • Super absorbent maxi pads
  • Regular absorbent maxi pads
  • Depends underwear – This was actually recommended to me by several moms in a natural birth Facebook group I’m apart of, so I added it here.
  • Old sheets and clean sheets
  • 2 Bed protectors or plastic drop cloths or shower curtains
  • 8-10 towels and 5 washcloths (preferably old, so they can get dirty)
  • Crock pot for warming washcloths
  • A jar of Tucks, or witch hazel and towels – I also included Preparation H towels and wipes
    • 1 can of Dermaplast – I chose to skip this
  • 2 bowls or buckets for the placenta and vomiting
  • 2-3 Large Garbage Bags
  • 1 gallon zip bag for placenta
  • a Digital Thermometer
  • Phone list to call relatives
  • Camera/ Video Camera
  • Extra Batteries for Camera(s)
  • Nursing or Sports Bra
  • Ibuprofen
  • Padsicles – Maxi pads wet with witch hazel (and essential oils if desired) for after the birth, frozen.

For Baby

  • Baby clothes, hat, socks, mittens
  • Receiving blankets (a lot)
  • Car seat (in case of emergency transfer)
  • Baby book ( to record information immediately)

Miscellaneous

  • Knee Pads – For extended kneeling
  • Yoga mat
  • Exercise ball
  • Back massager – in case hubby’s hand gets tired

 

Do you have any more tips or items that were nice to have during your home birth?



Once nausea subsided from the first trimester, heartburn kicked in. I am having a hard time not relying the go to over-the-counter medicines for relief. Most contain sodium bicarbonate and magnesium trisilicate which really isn’t healthy for pregnant women.  The go to advice is to avoid acidic foods, eat smaller meals, and avoid eating before bed. But I already do all of that. The other day, I ordered tea at a cafe. There was nothing to eat there except pastries and bread. I’m trying to reduce my sugar and anyways, bread give me heartburn. I literally had nothing but tea and… (you guest it) heartburn. So what’s a gal to do?

Here are some natural suggestions for heartburn. I’ve also added whether they worked for me:

  • Water – Basically this is the cure for everything in life. Pregnancy makes the consumption of water both necessary and difficult for me. I drink my water best in large gulps throughout the day, except when you have a growing person inside and hormones raging, consuming anything in large amounts just doesn’t happen. I sip water all day, but apparently not enough to reduce the fire in my chest.

  • Raw apple cider vinegar

  • Fresh lemon in water- This made my heartburn feel worse in my opinion.

  • Ginger tea

  • Coconut water

  • Fennel seeds

  • Peppermint

  • Yogurt or Milk

  • High Enzyme Foods

  • Fermented foods

  • HCL & Pepsin

  • Bentonite Clay – Now this is an old remedy from the south. The fact that it sells in health food stores for $10/ ounce is ridiculous to me. Especially since poor black women have been using it for years, and its use is consider low-end and almost witch crafty or superstitious. But whatever, it really does work and is good for adding nutrients to the body.

  • Aloe Vera – This is the best solution I have found. It last longer than anything else. Before aloe vera, I literally had been sleeping at. 90-degree angle. Anything less cause severe burning in my chest. I have been hard to avoid prescriptions so I am glad I finally discovered the drink I enjoyed in Korea actually is useful for my pregnancy. 

  • Almonds

 

Resources:

https://www.mamanatural.com/pregnancy-heartburn/

http://www.myhealthtips.in/2014/04/natural-cures-for-heartburn-in-pregnant-women.html



Ok so the title isn’t exactly proper English but you get the reference right?

This isn’t a long post I just figured I’d share my pregnant decision making process when deciding to go somewhere.  This literally was my thought pattern about five minutes ago. Maybe others can relate?

Responsible Me: Ok, you said you’d get up after your nap. So get up! You have to be there in half hour and you already said you were going. 

Pregnant Me: Yes but I’m pregnant I’m sure they will understand if I don’t show up. 

Responsible Me: Really do you want to be that person who uses the baby as an excuse? Be a person of you word and get up. 

Pregnant Me: Ok but I have to put on make up… Ugh… And real pants… Yuck!

Responsible Me: This is why you should go, you haven’t left the house in two days. You need to actually get dressed at some point this week.

Pregnant Me: This is true. Once I get there I’ll probably be happy I went. Ok. I’m getting up. 

Responsible Me: Good girl!

Pregnant Me: I’m going to the event. 

Responsible Me: That’s right!

Pregnant Me: But wait I have to find a bra that fits…

Responsible Me: We’re not going…

THE END



All this for $40! Keep in mind one of the diapers with insert is $20…yay!



Image result for baby eating in the womb

So my first trimester has been one of survival. I have been nauseous more than not and I have what feels like an unnatural tiredness. Emotionally for me this is great because it means the baby is taking my energy and thriving. Nutritionally and physically, not so great. I have been struggling to eat and by doing so I’ve been struggling to get the proper nutrients. My food regimen that seemed to work so well only weeks ago makes me sick at the thought of it; I mean salmon, yuck!

So what do I do? I cut myself slack.

I find that being overly regimented has the opposite effect on my success so I allow myself to  eat whatever I can stomach. However I make sure to focus on some basic health habits to ensure health.

  • Prenatal Vitamins every day. This was hard because it was hard to stomach them at times. Little known fact, prenatal are most effective before and during the early stages of pregnancy. This is one thing I forced on myself, especially on days I never made it through an entire meal. There are a number of prenatal vitamins on the market.
    • Look for a prenatal vitamin that includes:

      • 400 micrograms (mcg) of folic acid (I personally prefer folate, the non-synthetic form of B-9).
      • 400 IU of vitamin D.
      • 200 to 300 milligrams (mg) of calcium.
      • 70 mg of vitamin C.
      • 3 mg of thiamine.
      • 2 mg of riboflavin.
      • 20 mg of niacin.
      • 6 mcg of vitamin B12.
      • 10 mg of vitamin E.
      • 15 mg of zinc.
      • 17 mg of iron.
      • 150 micrograms of iodine
  • DHA supplement. The best prenatal comes as a liquid, usually a form of fish or krill oil. If you can stomach it, adding it to a smoothie is a great use of them. If not a gel cap is better than nothing.
  • Water. Early on I learned that the 16 cups (or double normal intake) recommendation for water was unrealistic and discouraging. It requires a lot of chugging of water during a time when I was only capable of sips. My solution was 2 cups in the morning, 1 cup every time I woke up from a nap, and 1 before bed. The rest of the day I sipped. This got me between 6-8 cups of water a day. It’s not ideal but it was better than nothing.
  • Exercise was pretty nonexistent. I seriously felt like I was on bed rest, I was so tired.
  • My only real food requirement was something green or raw everyday.
  • We did continue with our castor oil massages without the heat to help encourage natural detoxing.

Here are some tips from other tips, but I encourage you to be gentle with your body and expectations of yourself.

  • Smoothies: I couldn’t do it, but others swear by them)
  • Crockpot soups: They’re easy. I can tell my husband to throw the ingredients in or I can do it and leave the room to avoid smells. Also, if you add the right ingredients they are very nutritious.
  • Salad commitment: I committed to a salad a day. This helped with nutrient intake and water intake. White breads and rice settled my stomach. Rather than make myself feel guilty, I made sure to eat a large salad every day. The truly was the “better than nothing” trimester. Salads also helped me avoid the dreaded constipation of pregnancy.
  • Indulge in the good stuff: If I found a healthy food I liked, I went all in until I got sick of it. Food nutrition isn’t a cut a dry thing. Many times your body will store excess nutrients so I loaded up on foods like guacamole, lentils, carrots, apples, oatmeal because those were foods I enjoyed for a time. I didn’t force feed myself anything that made me queasy.

References:

http://www.webmd.com/baby/guide/prenatal-vitamins#1

http://www.babypost.com/blogs/beautiful-baby-body-blog/best-foods-eat-during-first-trimester



{June 7, 2017}   Sadity Baby?

Yep! After heartbreak and false hopes we’re adding a baby to our fabulous and frugal life.



“Twizzle Twazzle Twozzle Twum, Time for this one to come home.” There used to be an old cartoon that featured “Tootle the Turtle.”

Tootle Turtle

Tootle would always get himself into all sorts of scraps in alternate worlds and on adventures and Mr. Wizard would summon him home. Well that time has finally come home for us. My husband has served in the US Air Force for twenty years. For us that means, he is retiring and we are re-entering the civilian world. Mr. Wizard was always trying to teach Tootle that he was best off and safest in the comfort of home. While I admire the lesson, I don’t know if we are ready to fully embrace it. We are leaving the military; my husband after 20 years of service, me after almost 30 years as a dependent. Yet neither one of us are mourning. We are excited for our next adventure. In the mean time, of course I will provide resources for this transition.

To start off: Here are few tips when deciding how you will move and what you are entitle to for the final PCS:

    1. Who should we see before retirement? There are some mandatory appointments that the service member must attend before the final out processing is complete. However, you’d be surprised at how few spouses think to go to those appointments as well. So far we have been to about five appointments and/ or classes and I am always the only spouse. If you can’t accompany your service member through all of the TAPS process at least go to these classes and meetings:
      • Survivor Benefits Plan – There is a face to face meeting that requires both of your signatures. If your SBP counselor doesn’t insist on your presence, insist on  it for yourself. You want to be able to ask all of your questions because the SBP is a one shot deal. Once the paperwork is signed its hard to undo. Granted you have to give your consent to be cut out to of the plan, but you may have other questions about remarriage after death, protection for future children, etc.
      • Boots to Business Lecture- Even if you are not sure you want to start a business. Its good to know your options. There are so many programs out there to help veterans and their military spouses start businesses that you should really just take advantage of good information.
      • 10 Steps to a Federal Job – This is a great job for both members of a military couple. Often retirement can mean a change in dynamics. Spouses who haven’t worked in a long time, may consider full-time employment now that moving every few years isn’t a factor. Federal employment is always a consideration. It’s the closest you will get to a military career, and for some veterans and spouses that is comforting.
      • Budget portion of TAPS – In many military families the spouse takes care of the finances because they are the consistent partner on the home front. Thus, its so important that spouses get involved in the transition budget portion of transition training. One, so you can help fill any gaps on your existing budget and financial plan. Two, because its your future too. Don’t leave your service member to create a mock budget that has no relevance to your real life. Take the help and make your budget as realistic as possible. It may be difficult to get advice later.
    2. What entitlements are available to me?Separating or Retiring Military Service Members

      Are you separating or retiring from service? Read more on what you need to know regarding your travel claim at the end of your military service. You are authorized the following entitlements:

      Monetary Allowance in Lieu of Transportation (MALT)
      Plus (Per Diem)
      Dependent Travel
      Personally Procured Moves (PPM)
      Advance Payments

 

  1. Where will the military pay to move me? If you are,
    • SEPARATING: You must complete your travel before the 181st day (6 months) after your Separation Date on your orders. And, your travel is limited to your Home of Record (HOR) or your Place Entering Active Duty (PLEAD)
    • RETIRING: You must complete your home of selection (HOS) travel one year from the retirement date on your orders. Your travel is not limited to your HOR or PLEAD. You may claim travel to any location within the U.S. you are planning to reside after retiring
  2. How long am I entitled to military pay or a military move after retirement?
    • According to the regulation that governs military travel, your final move must be made within one year of your retirement, unless you apply for and receive an extension.
  3. How much can we make if we move ourselves verses have the military move us? PPM or DITY moves are known for making the service family money. But this may not always be the case because there’s no set rule that you will make money. Instead you make the best decision base on the information. Here are some resources to help make that decision:

 

Resources:

https://www.dfas.mil/militarymembers/travelpay/armypcs/endofmilitaryservice.html

http://www.belvoir.army.mil/jppsoma/files/FAQ/retirement%20entitlements%20info%20paper.pdf

http://www.military.com/spouse/military-life/retiring-from-military/qb-how-long-does-a-retiree-qualify-for-a-final-pcs.html



They say the best things in life are free, the next best things are low cost and easy to make. Not everything in life has to be difficult and sometimes getting what you paid for is actually a great thing. Such is the case for this really simple, really good, coconut ice cream!

I made it without an ice cream maker and it was smooth and creamy. 


Ingredients 

  • 1 can coconut milk (full fat)
  • 1/2 cup raw sugar
  • 1/4 tsp of salt


Method 

  1. In a saucepan warm coconut milk, sugar, and salt over medium low heat until sugar is dissolved. 
  2. In a glass container freeze overnight. 
  3. The next day, allow the sweet coconut milk to sit at room temperature for about 20 minutes. Just long enough for the solid block to begin to melt around the edges. 
  4. Chop sweet coconut milk into the food processor. 
  5. Pulse and then mix until it is creamy and smooth. 
  6. Pour mixture back into glass container and freeze for at least 4 hours. 
  7. The mixture should be slightly more solid than soft serve. 
  8. Top with garnishment or serve with cookies. 


Here is a list of garnishment ideas:

  • Fruit slices
  • Toasted coconut
  • Chocolate tuile
  • Sprinkles
  • Pokey Sticks (this is what I used)

Note: We ate this as desert to our Pho soup and it was a great pairing. 



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